My name is Barbara, I am an experienced and qualified Relationship Therapist offering face-to-face and online counselling.
I hold a Master (MA) in Relationship Therapy, I am an accredited Relate Practitioner, a member of the BACP Register and I am fully insured. I see Couples, Families and Individuals from my Private practice in Cobham, Surrey.
I have many years of experience in a variety of settings including Relate Centres, colleges and a substance abuse clinic. Before transitioning to my vocation, I had an international career in Finance and Human Resources. I work in English and in French.
Starting counselling may feel uncomfortable and for most people making the first appointment is the most daunting part. Counselling lets you talk about how you feel, away from home life, school or work. It can help you reflect on your choices and take decisions that feel right for you. Ultimately to be able to enjoy your life again.
I offer an integrative and supportive approach.
My clients often feel stuck, alone, anxious, misunderstood, unheard or unloved. Individual therapy will help them understand their options and make the best decisions to feel fulfilled again. Couples may feel angry after being betrayed, sad after losing a loved one, struggling to live with someone showing destructive behaviours, scared to trust again, resenting aging together. Couple therapy repairs relationships if both partners accept the need to change or mutually accept themselves. Couple therapy can also help to gain a better understanding as to why the relationship can’t carry on. Families may come to therapy to learn to blend as a new family, to navigate a separation amicably and minimising the impact on the children, to understand family triggers, to share family secrets. Family counselling is powerful, it gives everyone a fair and equal voice and builds empathy.
Therapy works when you accept you can’t change others but only yourself. The work involves reframing your thoughts and your response to triggers, making the right changes to feel alive in your relationship. Therapy will empower you to think, act, and interact in a more fulfilling way. It will help you move forward with more confidence and self-love.
Counselling requires focus and commitment. Short term (min 6 sessions) or long-term therapies are options that we can discuss, based on your needs.
People come to me for help a wide range of issues. Here are a few of the more common difficulties that can be supported through counselling:
Affairs and betrayals
Blended family related issues
Couples issues Cross cultural relationships
Passive aggressive behaviour
Separation and divorce
Survivor of Sexual abuse
“My partner and I have never felt so positive about our future”
Tina and James, Oxshott
“I came out of my darkest time. You helped me become more positive and to start believing in myself.”
Kelly (aged 19)
“Our sessions were so emotional but yet very constructive. Barbara was very supportive. It is definitely cheaper than a divorce!”
Gina and Shahil, Leatherhead
“Our Family Therapy sessions helped us understand our differences. Our family is now more accepting and united.”
Blended family, Epsom
“I now recognise the signs when I become angry. You have given me the tools to deal with my destructive emotions. Thank you.”
Emily (aged 15), Esher
My private practice is based in Cobham, Surrey, where I see clients from the surrounding Oxshott, Leatherhead, Esher, Bookham and East Horsley areas. I will provide exact location details when we arrange our counselling sessions. If you require further information please get in touch.
Each session lasts 1 full hour.
I can provide a free of charge initial 15 minute conversation on Zoom or over the phone to answer your questions and to see if I am the best suited therapist for you. Get in touch to check my availability.
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