Helping you feel alive and fulfilled in your relationship

Welcome, and thank you for visiting my website.

My name is Barbara, I am an experienced and qualified Relationship Therapist offering face-to-face and online counselling.

I hold a Master (MA) in Relationship Therapy, I am an accredited Relate Practitioner, a member of the BACP Register and an Accredited Member of the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society (MNCPS). I am fully insured. I see Couples, Families and Individuals from my Private practice in Cobham, Surrey, or Online.

I have many years of experience in a variety of settings including Relate Centres, colleges and a substance abuse clinic. Before transitioning to my vocation, I had an international career in Finance and Human Resources. I work in English and in French.

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How can counselling help?

Starting counselling may feel uncomfortable and for most people making the first appointment is the most daunting part. Counselling lets you talk about how you feel, away from home life, school or work. It can help you reflect on your choices and take decisions that feel right for you. Ultimately to be able to enjoy your life again.

I offer an integrative and supportive approach.

“Happiness is not something ready-made, it comes from your actions.” — Dalai Lama, XI

Why come to therapy?

My clients often feel stuck, alone, anxious, misunderstood, unheard or unloved. Individual therapy will help them understand their options and make the best decisions to feel fulfilled again. Couples may feel angry after being betrayed, sad after losing a loved one, struggling to live with someone showing destructive behaviours, scared to trust again, resenting aging together. Couple therapy repairs relationships if both partners accept the need to change or mutually accept themselves. Couple therapy can also help to gain a better understanding as to why the relationship can’t carry on. Families may come to therapy to learn to blend as a new family, to navigate a separation amicably and minimising the impact on the children, to understand family triggers, to share family secrets. Family counselling is powerful, it gives everyone a fair and equal voice and builds empathy.

Does it work?

Therapy works when you accept you can’t change others but only yourself. The work involves reframing your thoughts and your response to triggers, making the right changes to feel alive in your relationship. Therapy will empower you to think, act, and interact in a more fulfilling way. It will help you move forward with more confidence and self-love.

How many sessions will I need?

Counselling requires focus and commitment. Short term (min 6 sessions) or long-term therapies are options that we can discuss, based on your needs.

What issues can counselling help with?

People come to me for help a wide range of issues. Here are a few of the more common difficulties that can be supported through counselling:


Affairs and betrayals

Anger management


Asperger's syndrome

Bereavement Bullying

Blended family related issues

Couples issues Cross cultural relationships


Emotional abuse

Family issues

Low self-esteem

Passive aggressive behaviour

Pre-nuptial counselling

Relationship issues


Separation and divorce

Survivor of Sexual abuse

Stress Trauma

Work-related stress

Get in touch

Feel free to contact me if you have any questions about how relationship therapy works, or to arrange an initial assessment appointment. This enables us to discuss the reasons you are thinking of coming to counselling, whether it could be helpful for you and whether I am the right therapist to help.

You can also call me on 07919972430 if you would prefer to leave a message or speak to me first. I am happy to discuss any queries or questions you may have prior to arranging an initial appointment.

All enquires are usually answered within 24 hours, and all contact is strictly confidential and uses secure phone and email services.

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My Location

My private practice is based in Cobham, Surrey, where I see clients from the surrounding Oxshott, Leatherhead, Esher, Bookham and East Horsley areas. I will provide exact location details when we arrange our counselling sessions. If you require further information please get in touch.

Fees & availability

Each session lasts 1 full hour.

  • Individuals : £ 80
  • Couples : £ 90
  • Family: £ 110

I can provide a free of charge initial 15 minute conversation on Zoom or over the phone to answer your questions and to see if I am the best suited therapist for you. Get in touch to check my availability.

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